A Letter to My Ten-Year-Old Self

by Lara on December 14, 2011

It seems that every letter I read to a person’s former self, it’s usually addressed to their 16 or maybe 18-year-old self. I don’t know about you, but I could have used some tips and advice BEFORE those years. Age ten seems young enough to actually have a shot at getting through my stubborn head.

To My Ten-Year-Old Self,

It’s me. I’m you in 16 years. Yep, JTT is still around. Nope, nobody wants to date him anymore.

In about two years, Mom and Dad are going to get a divorce. It’s going to suck more than anything you’ve ever been through, and luckily, more than anything you will go through for a good decade or more. But through a long series of fortunate events evolving from their divorce, you will eventually meet your future husband. And then you will understand how life works in very odd, very bittersweet ways.

You may be surprised that at 16, Dad does buy you a car. It won’t be the one you want, but you should love it anyway because one day it will represent all your favorite things about being 16. You will go through many, many hours learning how to drive the stick shift. You will want to give up. Don’t. Because when you finally learn, you will gain a tremendous sense of freedom and accomplishment. Plus, don’t tell Dad, but boys love it.

One day at 17, you’ll decide that a diet consisting of apples and raw carrots will be the best way to prepare for Junior Prom. I know you won’t listen if I tell you not to do it, so just try to get through this phase quickly, because it’s f*cking up your metabolism like you wouldn’t believe.

At 18, you’ll get in massive fights with each of your parents. Please, please don’t say the awful things you want to say just to hurt them. You will regret saying those things for years after.

When you’re 20 and you pledge your sorority and you think your “big sis” is just about the coolest person ever, don’t forget about your REAL big sisses back at home; the ones who showed you how tampons worked, introduced you to Paul Simon, and let you hang around their friends so you’d look cool in front of yours. That’s what a big sis really does.

At 22, Matthew will ask you to marry him. Remember it. Savor it. Keep the memory in your pocket for sad days.

When you visit Grandma on your 23rd birthday and tell her you’ll take her to lunch the next day, please, please don’t call and cancel. Β Trust me.

Finally, stop worrying so much. Β Your life turns out pretty great.


Future You.

{ 28 comments… read them below or add one }

Jasmine @ the bookish mama December 14, 2011 at 9:34 pm

Absolutely beautiful. πŸ™‚

Can’t wait to see you all soon! Love to you both!


Lara December 15, 2011 at 5:31 pm

Can’t wait to see you guys too! xox


saysskippy December 14, 2011 at 10:46 pm

Lara I can’t even tell you how much I love this post! Honestly I would tell pretty much every single one of those things to my 10 year old self too- no wonder we’re friends πŸ™‚ Big <3


Lara December 15, 2011 at 5:31 pm

I never wonder why we’re friends πŸ˜‰


stephanie December 15, 2011 at 12:44 am

This is absolutely wonderful Lara. and I remember helping you learn how to drive a stick shift in that fabulous green Jetta.That was intense. It makes me happy that we have been friends for so long that I can say, oh I remember over a decade ago when you were learning how to drive a stick. You’re a wonderful friend, and I’m grateful to have been in your life for about 12 ish years. (I’m not sure the exact amount of time). Love you Far!!!


Lara December 15, 2011 at 5:32 pm

You were there for so many of these moments! I’m so glad. xox


Lou December 15, 2011 at 1:49 am

How good is Paul Simon? Love.

Love this post, makes me think about what I would write to myself… thanks for the nice warm fuzzies (and some sad ones, but hey that’s life isn’t it?)



Lara December 15, 2011 at 5:33 pm

It is, indeed. Yes, Paul Simon rocks!


Pure2raw twins December 15, 2011 at 10:21 am

great post!! love the message here…yes no stressing, enjoy the present!


julie December 15, 2011 at 11:56 am

i can’t wait to take a leaning tower of pisa picture someday in my life πŸ™‚


Roz@weightingfor50 December 15, 2011 at 4:42 pm

HI Lara. I just adore this post!!!! If only we could turn back time and know then what we know now. Actually, I take that back because all experiences then (good and bad) have helped shape us into the women we are today.


Lara December 15, 2011 at 5:34 pm



Heather Eats Almond Butter December 15, 2011 at 6:25 pm

Favorite post of the day…week…entire month maybe? Loved this Lara! You are such a clever writer. Keep it up.


Lara December 19, 2011 at 10:59 am

Aww thanks Heabie πŸ™‚


Susan December 16, 2011 at 2:07 pm

My parents divorced when I was 12 too. Yeah… I get that. xo


glidingcalm December 17, 2011 at 9:30 pm


I think I worry more now than i did when i was 16! haha


Tracey December 19, 2011 at 8:02 am

This was beautifully written:)


Lara December 19, 2011 at 11:00 am

Thank you Tracey!


sophia December 21, 2011 at 5:01 pm

I love this. It’s beautiful. Your growth and experiences and wisdom shines in this post. Keep on growing, Lara. We all make mistakes in life, but it seems like you take the good from it. πŸ™‚


Jeannette December 22, 2011 at 5:52 pm

Hi there, I just came across your blog. This is such a beautiful post. It makes me think of all the things I wish I could have told myself at that age. You’re a beautiful writer and have a lovely blog.


Lara December 29, 2011 at 10:54 am

Thank you very much, Jeannette!


Tasha @ Dine n' Dash December 24, 2011 at 6:28 pm

love the writing and transparency here. thanks for sharing. I totally wanna do this now…


Lara December 29, 2011 at 3:16 pm

Thank you! It was an interesting exercise in reflection. I recommend it!


Megan December 26, 2011 at 8:26 am

This is a really touching post, and I love the bit about JTT πŸ™‚ Happy Holidays!


Andrea@WellnessNotes December 27, 2011 at 12:28 pm

This is certainly one of my favorite blog post you have written… Just beautiful! And I can sooo relate to the worrying less part…

I hope you had a nice visit with family and friends, but I am sorry that I wasn’t able to see you.

Hope 2012 brings much happiness and joy!


Leng December 28, 2011 at 3:48 pm


This is an awesome post! I love how this has a happy ending!


Rene January 6, 2012 at 12:42 pm

This was really, really sweet and lovely.


Lara January 6, 2012 at 12:44 pm

Thanks Rene πŸ™‚


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