A Letter to My Unborn Son

by Lara on March 23, 2012

Dear Baby Boy,

Little Man, thanks for showing us your goods during the ultrasound, but I should tell you right now that flashing people like that is pretty frowned upon once you exit this private little suite.

I can hear you already.  “Mom!  I can’t believe you posted a picture of my penis on the internet!”  Sorry kiddo.  I have to post it because BOY was that a surprise!  Everyone was so sure you were a girl!  Already I love that you are surprising us and keeping us on our toes.  I thought you were a boy at the beginning and I should have trusted myself.  I can’t believe I let everyone else change my belief.  That is the first thing you have taught me without even knowing it.  Or maybe you do.  I bet you are wise like that.

Some people, people who don’t know Mommy very well, thought I might be disappointed to find out you are a boy.  How silly is that?!  First of all, you seem to have all your working parts, which in itself, makes me so very, very happy and grateful.  But more than that, there are so many reasons why I am beyond ecstatic that you are a boy!

  • I always wanted a big brother.  Your aunties are great big sisters to me, but  I am excited that if we decide to give you a brother or sister, they will get to have YOU as their wonderful, responsible, protective big bro.
  • Between you and me, Kid, I don’t think I want any more.  I think YOU are going to make me and Daddy so unbelievably happy that we will realize we couldn’t possibly do as well a second time around.  If that’s the case, I feel an old-fashioned relief that you’re a boy so your daddy and granddad will be happy that someone is carrying on their last name (but we are an egalitarian household so we don’t buy into that silliness.  I just like to humor them).
  • If you are anything like your daddy, this world will be a better place.  I wouldn’t have married your daddy if I didn’t hope one day to have a son just like him.  I can’t wait to see you two together.  Thinking about it melts my heart to pieces already.
  • This family already has plenty of estrogen.  In our house alone, we have two crazy little pups that are “my girls.”  You and Daddy will now always be “my boys.”  I love that.
  • Not many people know this about Mommy, but I prefer the company of men to the company of women.  You boys are just so fun and easy to be around.  You are never to repeat this, but girls can sometimes be a pain in the ass.  I would know.
  • I can’t say exactly how, but I think YOU are going to make me a better mommy, and a better person.  I think you are going to teach me things from your little boy perspective that I have never even thought of, and I am so excited to learn from you.  And yeah, I hope I can teach you a few things, too.

There is one thing, Baby Boy, one thing that worries me.  One day, one day in about 18 years, you’re going to leave us.  You’re going to grow up and meet a girl who will probably think I’m crazy and overbearing (and in defense of daughter-in-laws everywhere, she will probably be right).  I hope you will remember to call us and visit us.  I hope you will remember how much we love and adore you.  You will.  I know you will.

You have so many people waiting to meet you and love on you.  For now, you’ve got a big job to do in the next 20 weeks: grow, grow, grow!  We will be ready and waiting when you decide to make your big appearance.

I love you so much already,

Your Mama.

{ 22 comments… read them below or add one }

Karen March 23, 2012 at 12:08 pm

I know exactly how you feel, I thought the same things when I was pregnant w/ my son!!! I felt the same way about having a boy… so happy I had a boy instead of a girl :-) I’m still young but I honestly dont want another baby.. too much to worry about. It’s sad to think that one day he will leave me and fall in love but I hope to have a close relationship so he wont be so far.. I try not to think about that hehe.

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betty March 23, 2012 at 12:42 pm

LOVE it!!!! so happy for you! you’re going to be sucha good mama!

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skippysays March 23, 2012 at 1:20 pm

Listen here Lara- I just spent a good part of my morning crying after reading this, and honestly that was not on my agenda for the day. Next time you gotta consult with me before posting things you know will make me cry, and I’ll let you know if I have time for it that day :) Aka I love this post

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Lara March 23, 2012 at 1:25 pm

I cried writing it :( I can’t believe you are doing this on a weekly basis!

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glidingcalm March 23, 2012 at 1:28 pm

:D !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

and p.s.
“Not many people know this about Mommy, but I prefer the company of men to the company of women. You boys are just so fun and easy to be around. You are never to repeat this, but girls can sometimes be a pain in the ass. I would know.”

-> DITTO.

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Paige March 23, 2012 at 2:06 pm

I totally agree boys > girls most of the time (of course, there are a few exceptions). I pray for sons! I can only imagine how my poor mother felt during my teen years. :) People are silly for thinking you would be anything but happy either way!

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Lara March 23, 2012 at 2:29 pm

Absolutely on the last line! I would have written a similar letter to a daughter ;)

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Jessie @ Graze With Me March 23, 2012 at 2:58 pm

Lara this post is so beautiful! I love the “my boys” reference, you’re making me want to try for a son now. And I am NOT ready to do that all over again for at least 2 yrs!

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Jenn (eating bender) March 23, 2012 at 4:15 pm

This post made me teary eyed – beautifully written! There are so many reasons to be over the moon about having a baby, period, and having a boy brings its own joys just as it would have had it gone the other way (and I say this not having a kid of my own, but knowing that I would very much like to in the future). I love all of the reasons you listed. So happy for you! :)

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Rene March 23, 2012 at 4:52 pm

Love it. Super sweet. Congrats on your healthy baby boy! I feel the same way about girls by the way. ;-)

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Andrea@WellnessNotes March 23, 2012 at 5:08 pm

Love this post!

As you know, both times I was SURE it was a girl, but, obviously, they turned out to be boys. And I can’t imagine it any other way… :)

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Asuma March 24, 2012 at 2:18 am

Your letter is absolutely beautiful, Lara. It would be so amazing if your son could read this letter one day. I sometimes read the pregnancy diary my mum kept while she was pregnant with me (with her permission, of course), and I can feel all the love that I was blessed with even before I was born :)

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Mr Smoothiegirl March 24, 2012 at 9:17 am

Beautiful Lara, just beautiful :)

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Deb (SmoothieGirlEatsToo) March 24, 2012 at 10:23 am

LOVE <3 XOXOXOXOX

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Lea @ Healthy Coconut March 24, 2012 at 2:02 pm

Awww, congrats on your soon to be born baby boy! Boys are a lot of fun, they are really independent. I grew up with 4 girls and for the longest time I only had 1 niece. But this year, my sister gave birth to boy and the whole family is smitten with the only boy we have in the family.

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Lara March 25, 2012 at 3:41 pm

How cute! Yeah, my whole family is pretty girl-heavy, too!

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Jen@FoodFamilyFitness March 25, 2012 at 12:41 pm

SO stinking sweet, I love it!!! As a mom to two boys, and one girl, don’t tell my daughter this, but boys are SOOOO much easier!!! You will love every minute of being a mommy to the best cuddle bunnies ever :)

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Lara March 25, 2012 at 3:40 pm

Aww thanks Jen :)

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Lele March 25, 2012 at 3:38 pm

When my friend was pregnant, she and her husband wanted to wait til the baby was born to find out the sex, but she said she was getting her ultrasound and the kid was like, SPREAD EAGLED showing off his stuff. So she says to the doctor, “Is that an… arm?” and the doctor was like “Uh, actually…”
I think boys are showoffs, even at that early stage :D

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Lara March 25, 2012 at 3:42 pm

That’s pretty funny! When the ultrasound tech said, “It’s a boy!” I said, “How sure are you?” She’s like, “He’s making it pretty clear.” Oooof course he was. ;)

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Lissa March 25, 2012 at 8:01 pm

LOVE LOVE LOVE this post, Lara!! Beautifully said … and you are going to be one helluva mum! :)

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Elina (Healthy and Sane) March 26, 2012 at 7:40 am

You are so freaking cute and are going to make an amazing mom. I’m so excited for you and Matt!! :)

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