To My Husband, on His First Father’s Day

by Lara on June 16, 2013

Dear Husband,

It hasn’t been an easy ten months, has it?  Since the day our son was born, it seems like we’ve hardly had a moment together to reflect on our new lives as parents.  And since it doesn’t look like that moment is going to come any time soon, I thought I would take this opportunity to tell you some things that I probably haven’t told you since that day you became a father.  To tell you the things that have gotten lost in the shuffle of dirty diapers, spilled breastmilk, and takeout dinners.

To My Husband on His First Father's Day

So many of our baby’s first days are a blur.  A blur of of sleepless nights and tears.  The days and nights, the weekdays and weekends…all rolled together as a pile of memories I hope return to me one day when I’m old.  But there are flashes, fragments of memories, moments of perfect clarity that I know I will never forget.

Like that first day in the hospital when the nurse left us and we had to change G’s old-fashioned cloth diaper by ourselves, each of us hoping the other one would figure it out before his frantic newborn cries took over the entire hospital wing.

Or our first night home, the now-infamous hellish “second night,” in which I cried, more than our new baby, and you held us both.

To My Husband on His First Father's Day

In the craziness of these moments, I never stopped to say,

You are doing a great job.  Despite my constant badgering that you ate the baby’s blueberries, placed his clothes in the wrong drawer, and put his shirt on backwards, you are a wonderful father.

Thank you.  Thank you for being the anchor of our family.  Thank you for going to work every day.  Thank you for providing for our family and making it possible for me to stay home with our son.  Thank you for letting me sleep in every morning while you make coffee, unload the dishwasher, feed and walk the dogs, make your own lunch, and get G ready for the day.  Thank you for taking out the trash, cleaning the car, and taking the endless night shift…and for doing all of it with such patience.

I love you.  We have ten years of great memories together before we became parents, but the last ten months have been my favorite.  The all-encompassing love we share for this little creature that has taken over our lives has confirmed that my decision to have you as the father of my child is my best one yet.

Here’s to you!

Love, Lara

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Sarah June 16, 2013 at 4:01 pm

I love this… Your husband sounds like a great father and partner! My husband’s equally amazing, yet I’m always yelling at him for losing a one of the baby’s bottle parts, feeding the toddler the wrong food, and loads of other ridiculous complaints. It really does take two people, styles, and approaches to raise a family!


Lara June 16, 2013 at 8:27 pm

Thanks Sarah. Yes, it’s so easy to focus on the little things and not see the big picture! Cheers to good husbands!


Heather Eats Almond Butter June 16, 2013 at 4:05 pm

Happy Fathers Day Matthew!
PS I knew you’d be a good dad as soon as you guys got the dogs. A man’s love for his pups speaks a great deal. 🙂


Lara June 16, 2013 at 8:27 pm

So true Heabs. Happy Father’s Day to CD, too!


Katharine June 17, 2013 at 9:11 am

This is beautiful, Lara! Your family is just so cute 🙂


Lara June 17, 2013 at 10:26 am

Thank you Katharine 🙂


crystal June 21, 2013 at 11:13 am

well dang…this is perhaps the best father’s day post i’ve read yet 🙂 definitely print this one out and save it to read years down the road.


Lara June 23, 2013 at 8:35 pm

Thanks Crystal 🙂


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